"Are you listening to me?" she said... I stared at her disappointed face, not disappointed with me but about her current "situation."
My dear friend...let's call her Jill was having some personal hygiene problems with her bf of a couple months...Jack.
Now get this, Jack is an extremely attractive bachelor but she couldn't stand the bad breath.
Yes I said it...BAD BREATH!
Jill went on and on about how she made a dentist appointment in a subtle way along with her appointment so that he could have solved the problem but this didn't seem to work.
She got the entire package..new toothpaste, toothbrush, Listerine and even offered him mints or gum at times but she felt to embarrassed to tell him directly.
I tried to tell her that she needed to be straight and tell him but she argued that it would have hurt his feelings.
She went on the telling me of Jacks love for kissing for long periods of time where sometimes she would have to hold her breath. At some point I couldn't help but feel sorry for her since this was slowly but surely breaking her relationship.
Now I ended up doing some research for her which showed the bad breath also known as halitosis can be caused by a number of things such as decayed teeth, general neglect of the teeth, periodontal disease (gum disease), deeply furrowed tongue, sinus infection, tonsillitis, diet, drying of oral tissues, digestive problems, smoking, systemic diseases, lung or sinus infection. All this information still couldn't convince her to tell him.Ladies and Gentlemen there's occasional bad breath caused by certain foods and then there’s just long term forever and ever, not happily ever after kind of bad breath...For Jack and Jill I think it's the later.
Given this situation though...How would you all handle this situation?? Maybe your comments would be able to help Jill out...Jus saying
this is all i gotta say - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FLUDQmUlh_M
ReplyDeleteBreff mints!! Breff mints11 Breff mints!! Good one lazy trini...
ReplyDeleteIf she could fart comfortably in front of him she would have been able to tell him his breath stinks. I think she should tell him because if she had bad breath she would want you, being her good friend, to tell her. So she being not even his girl friend but friend should tell him because she wouldn't be the only one thinking that he has bad breath. Then people might start referring to her as the girl with the bf with breath and maybe start thinking she has bad breath if she could take the smell. She should tell him. If it ruins there relationship at least it wasn't her throwing up in his mouth that ruined it. If he doesn't appreciate her honesty than he's not worth her time. Honesty is the best policy.
ReplyDeletewell boy the truth hurts but in the long run it will be best to tell the person!
ReplyDeleteFantastic advice anonymous...wish you would put atleast a nick name however this is great!! But I don't know about her being comfortable farting infront of him...we never went on to that topic..lol...I'll find out though! Thanks again.
ReplyDeleteAnonymous#2...how do you suggest she tells him without hurting his feelings??
ReplyDeletewell like i said the truth hurts but if this couple are in love then ur friend needs to gather the confidence and discuss the matter at hand. i'm sure in the long run she will feel better and be able to move accordingly....
ReplyDeleteI'm thinkin that his breath can't be that bad! Cuz when u encounter something messed up u always have a noticeable reaction. U bounce ur toe - u scream, u pass beetham - ur face does ben up!
ReplyDeleteU cant miss a ben up face, especially when ur kissin it!
Well Realist, you do have a point. In her situation this wasn't a real issue in the initial stages of the relationship since she thought it could have been fixed. However, moving along it just got worst...
ReplyDeleteI think that she should just be true to him and tell him how she feels towards the situation.
ReplyDeleteThis will hurt his feelings and therefore he will try to pay more attention maintaining his mouth.
Just saying
Well I've given the same advice but she says it's easier said than done...Thanks though..I get where you're coming from.
ReplyDeleteThis is toooo funny..... love it browngirl.....
ReplyDeleteThanks Morgan!! :P
ReplyDeleteIf she really cares, she should tell him. It's not the easiest thing to bring up. Timing is everything. Don't bring it up during an argument... He must know that it's out of concern and not an insult.
ReplyDeleteNow that makes a lot of sense...You know us trinis like to say bad things to each other during arguments..lol..
ReplyDeleteMaybe she needs to start obsessing about the topic first. Ok, so she starts harping about dental hygiene and how good it is and why, the causes and solutions. She starts saying that they both need to become a lot more conscious about it. Ask him if she had bad breath, how would he deal with it and how would he would want her to deal with it, if he had bad breath 'hypothetically' (not). She should gauge whether it would be better if she just spat the the truth or be really subtle, depending on his responses. Personally though, i think being straightforward so late in the game may be a bad thing. An extremely good strategy may be her salvation (and his).
ReplyDeleteThis is fantastic advice matilonatt....Thanks!!
ReplyDeleteI experienced that a number of times and its not a good experience at all, situations like that kill a relationship before it really begins. My advice is to tell him, though it may hurt his feeling and he may not take it the right way, its best that he knows...for his sake.
ReplyDeleteA number of times Dee...oh gosh man.... Feeling is a heck of a thing yes..Thanks for the advice, I'll let her know :)
ReplyDeleteShe needs to tell him! If he hears it from someone else and then comes to her for a second opinion.. what will she do?? Lie? lol.. like "honey.. no.. you smell great!" That would be an even greater issue because she'd either have to lie to him or if she then tells the truth, he'll realize that she knew all along and left him to make a continued mess of himself in public. That's not a good look for someone who should have your back through it all.
ReplyDeleteOmg that will be super embarrassing if someone tells him and he asks her...when you put it like that Trini T she should defo tell him..
ReplyDeleteshe should tell him , it wont hurt his feelings it for his betterment and thats his gf it shouldnt be to bad... just do it in a fun way??? LOL like babe your breath smells like garlic' ahah i told my ex bf that we laughed but took extra care of his mouth after that...and well my bf now has a rotten teeth in his mouth so his breath expires reallllyy quickly and he refuse to go take it out...I started blocking my nose everytime he talked to me in a joking manner and he laughed and said babe is it really that bad i said yeaaaa and now hes going to the dentist... I really dont think it would hurt his feelings but then again it all depends on the rship you have with ur bf :)))
ReplyDeleteHahaha Why does this post remind me of a similar conversation with my gf....Guess this is a growing issue lol.
ReplyDeleteWell I have been in this same situation. I'd found the guy I thought would give me that happily ever after fairy tale, however....his kisses ....and close talking were not sexy as in those fairy tales. It was more breath taking -LITERALLY.
I loved this guy so much that I forced myself to endure it.....Kissing him was bitter sweet...because I love kissing...but yet that blast of mouth odor always left me nauseous. And the sad part about it is...he always chewed gum and it never masked the scent the slightest.
This guy and I are no longer together.....and I never told him.....So his next girl friend gonna have to deal with that shit now :)
Maybe ill send him an FB message now to give him the 411 now that his feelings no longer matter to me hehehe.
Girlllllllll!!! Did you send him the message??? Oh gosh you bad..I understand what you're saying though...I'm a lover of kissing too yes...
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